Here it is, Mid-November already. WOW!!! Zippin right along, huh?
Well, we had a team meeting last Tuesday. It was decided that Ct would be with us full time NOVEMBER 20th! You got it! THIS FRIDAY!!!
We are filled with emotions.
Excitement..it is really happening for us. A years worth of time and effort nearing completion.
Fear...we have yet to work out all the kinks. School (he will be starting after Thanksgiving Break). The dynamics between CT and our 3-year-old,Gabrielle. She has a hard time finding where he fits, and how she should have a relationship wit him.
Cannot possibly start to feel any smoothness until a routine is established. Consistency is achieved. Both CT and Gabrielle will benefit from this. That I am sure.
CT has been with us for two weekends, and a mid-week overnight last week. He is starting to test his limits. Tantruming a little. Saying "NO!" to Andy and I. Together we are standing strong. Unified in our expectations and discipline. Clearly giving him limits.
We are also finding how much of a love bug he is. Always giving a little snuggle. He kisses my forehead and strokes my face while I am reading to him at at bed time.
We have started to research his long term diagnosis'. Understand all of the SPED jargon. They speak Latin sometimes, I think. I need to understand EVERY WORD. EVERY THERAPY. EVERY TREATMENT OPTION. This will allow Andy and I to better advocate for him.
PHEW! Still so much to do. So, as my title reads... "In the home stretch till placement, anyway". It is just the beginning. Just the tip of the ice berg.
I have hardly had time to catch my breath, let alone Blog. Thanks to you all for your comments and encouragement. It is soooo important in this whole process, and appreciated more than you know.
Things are moving fast and furious. Because CT can not understand why he is not "home with Mama and Dada", we are stepping things up. What would be a placement of January 1st...is now BEFORE Thanksgiving. We are excited about that. Nervous as well. Trying to speed the "powers that be" along with all the details. School...pediatrician..stuff. We have another team meeting on Tuesday, and all the details will be hashed out.
CT has no focus on school, cries for us at night, and has almost completely detached from his foster family. What good is it for him to prolong the inevitable. Once he is placed permanently, we can build consistency again. Get him back on track at school. Feeling safe in his forever home.
It is hard, however, to wade through all the "MUCK". The feelings of the Foster family, DHHS' input, psychiatrists, and teachers.
PHEW! That has been the biggest learning curve of it all.
I will be leaving shortly to go get our lil man! Can't wait to spend the weekend with him. I will let you all know how it goes....