Thursday, March 5, 2009

Fate at work?

Got a call from "M's" social worker.
The bio Aunt/Uncle's home study has been approved. APPROVED!
Does that mean "M" will automatically be placed in their home? NO, or so I am told.
She asked that we "sit tight" for the next few months. "Let the process work". What will happen is that "M" will be placed within the home, after the issues that have been identified in the home study process (WTF?) have been fixed. They will "pop" in to make sure that they are in compliance with the directions they are given. That they do not maintain their chaotic life style. Great for an autistic child.
Truthfully, we want what is best for "M". I am not convinced that this is the best place for him to grow up. 5 years down the road, I will get a call for placement of this child, who has yet again regressed into a non-verbal state.
For 9 months we have been fighting for this little boy. Who doesn't even know that someone is out there. Looking out for him. Wanting all the best for him. Willing to open there home and heart for him FOREVER!!!!!
So, I guess that is the end. Of our "road to M"
A "Thanks for your interest, and all of your help", and bye.
My heart is broken.

I have no doubt that we will find just the right child. The "meant to be". It doesn't make this any easier.

And, I am mad as hell at the state for pushing a child into a home that may (or may not) be best for them. Because they have some family history. I would be all for this placement if they did NOT already returned him to custody once.

Deep breath.
Blow nose.
Move on.
You can't save the world.....

6 comments:

amandaautismx2 said...

Corrine, everything will turn out ok. I don't know what to say. I am an adopted child as well. My heart cries out for you and I hope that one day you will have that dream come true. Hugs from me to you.

Torina said...

My heart breaks for this child and your family. Before we got them, my boys were placed in multiple relative placements that did not work out and only contributed more to abuse, neglect, and trauma. Biology is not always in the best interests of a child. This is frustrating to no end.

RaizenBoyz said...

I'm so sorry. I just don't get the system.

Lyn said...

I know this isn't going to help at all but I truly believe that everything will work out in the end, and if it hasn't worked out then it's not the end. I'm so sorry.

T. said...

So sorry. I know you can't save the world, but I know it's hard to admit.

T.

Mary Ellen said...

I hate a "system" that can follow some arbitrary rules without considering what is the best option for the child. I'm so sorry this is happening to your family.